“Let your raging desires become Preferences. That is YOUR part. After that, all things will be done FOR you and THROUGH you, not BY you.”
I always loved this quote by the great nondualist Indian saint but honestly couldn’t figure out for the LIFE of me how someone with a passionate nature could actually DO this. Then I realized, like everything else, there’s Change Me Prayer . The Divine will do for you what the ego could never do for itself.